Yesterday, my littles and I were headed to the mall for a stroll since the weather was predicted to be quite cold and cloudy. Once we were inside, I let the older sister down to walk and run the vacant halls. She is very active and absolutely loves this free reign of the halls before the mall stores open. She was headed to a familiar phone case kiosk to take a look around. I greeted the kiosk attendant and exchanged a few pleasantries, all the while keeping an eye on my little one. She decided she had had enough of phone cases and wanted to move on. The problem was she didn’t look where she was going. When she turned around to head off down the left corridor, she bumped her noggin right on an eye level metal sign. Not a great feeling for her and not a great moment for me. I hate when she gets hurt. She hates when she gets hurt. Her little sister hates when she gets hurt (she cries when sissy cries-it’s the sweetest thing). So here she was bawling. I picked her up and immediately turned on nurse mode.
First I checked for blood-there was none. Next I looked to see where she made impact- it turned out it was on the bridge of her nose (awful). Once I identified where the injury was, as long as I knew it was not emergency status (blood, passing out etc), I gently felt around the area to see if there was extreme tenderness in any one area. She did not screaming when I pressed anywhere around the area so I knew she was fairly OK. She had stopped crying at this point but swelling had begun. We hustled to the nearest Starbucks and grabbed a cup full of ice, a few napkins and a white mocha latte. Applying the ice about every minute for 20 seconds or so the area did the trick and the swelling was down within 10 minutes.
Fast forward two hours and we were now at the park with our friends. The remaining cup of ice was still in the stroller. At this particular park, they have metal ducks lined in a row. It is a statue that gives recognition and sentiment to a duck pond that is in the park as well. The display shows 8 little ducklings following their Momma duck. They were solid metal and big enough for even a 3-year-old to climb onto comfortably. On this particular day, there were many other nannies and moms around watching their littles play in this area.
There was one little blonde, curly haired girl who must have been around 1 ½ years old. She was still a little wobbly on her feet but would walk faster at times and sometimes even run. Now the area surrounding the duck display was nice soft grass but the area right underneath was cobblestone. This little girl was headed to give one of the little ducks in the back of the line a hug when…I think you know where this is going…She tripped on a cobblestone block, fell forward and hit her forehead on the duck’s unforgiving body. This impact sent a resonating DONG through the air and everyone stopped. You could FEEL the impact. The girl didn’t move for what seemed like forever but I’m sure was no more than 5 seconds. The nanny or mom had seen what happened and was on her way over but she was sitting on the nearby bench, so it took a few seconds for her to scoop the little girl in her arms. Soon the girl began crying (thank goodness) and the adult began consoling her. She assured her she was OK and empathized with the pain the little girl must be feeling. When I thought to myself…
MY ICE! God is so good. Remembering that my little not even a couple hours earlier had had an unfortunate collide with a metal object as well, I reached for the left-over ice in our stroller. The woman took the ice with enthusiasm. My friend, having finished giving her little boy his sandwich had a plastic baggy. She offered it to the woman and we had completed an ‘ice pack’ for this little girl. Now up until this point, the girl had been facing the woman in her arms and I had not had the chance to see her forehead. What came next will be etched in my brain for a very long time…
I looked up to find this precious girl with a black and blue, goose egg size welt on her head. When I tell you that I got shivers from looking at it, I am not exaggerating. I was very concerned and waited to see what the woman would do once she took a good look at it. The woman with ice in hand began….texting. Yes, texting. To be fair though, I do not know and don’t claim to know whether the text was going out to a mother or father in hopes of getting their opinion on further action or the incident. However, I do know one thing, she could have applied the ice to this girls head!
This was the second worrying event. The first was noticing the girl did not move or get up once she made contact with the metal duck. Now the third worrying event was next. As the little girl sat in this woman’s lap, her welt growing, she was merely staring. She stared straight ahead. No more crying. She wasn’t looking around or fidgeting to get down. This worried me and I began to think this may be a concussion level head collision. I did say a little about the ice application and I’m sure my face told the tale of how awful this little girls head looked, but I didn’t say too much in fear of overstepping.
I know that this nanny or mother probably meant well. I overheard her say that the little girl did not like it. I’m sorry, if your little one is pretty seriously injured and you as the adult know what is best to remedy it, do it! Do not let the child squirming or resisting the treatment, null the treatment application all together. That is just ridiculous!
So, in recap…she did not apply ice, she did not call anyone, she did not seem too concerned and she let her little down to resume playing.
I am in no way aiming to bash this woman or paint her in a bad light. Perhaps she was not aware of the possible severity of the situation or maybe she knew something that I did not. I am however, using this pretty graphic story to highlight two things that I believe are so important when you are a mom, caregiver in anyway or nanny by trade.
On the Go First Aid Kits
Whenever you leave the house, it is a good idea to keep a simple first aid kit on hand. I have not always done this. Throughout the years of caring for children and seeing the seemingly impossible situations they get themselves into within 2.2 seconds, I have learned that it is so important to have this handy bag around. The kits should be small and filled with only the essentials: band aids, cleansing cloth, antibiotic ointment for cuts, gauze and tape, a breakable ice-pack and possibly Benadryl in case of severe allergic reactions. These items should hold you over, even in a slightly emergency situation, until you arrive at the doctors and your child begins receiving medical attention.
Better Safe than Sorry
It is always better to be safe than sorry. This is especially true when you are a nanny, teacher or caregiver that is watching someone else’s child, but also true for parents as well. My oldest little earlier that fine day had hit her head off a sign. Sure, she didn’t bleed, she didn’t cry for more than 2 minutes, and the area was not severely tender to the touch but noticing the quick swelling and potential bruising, I still applied ice for quite awhile. I have learned and would like to tell you before you have to find out the hard way on your own…It is always better to be safe than sorry.
I have gone ahead and attached a FREE FIRST AID KIT CHECKLIST for you to use as you wish. Personally, I place this check list above the hook in the entryway where the kit hangs nicely. I do a quick check of what I need, make a note of what we are running out of and grab it as we head out the door. I hope you find it useful as well!
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